Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Family. Show all posts

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Tick…Tock…Tick…Tock


I was speaking with a friend the other day and one thing that kept coming up in our conversation was time.  This person, as do I, focuses on really taking advantage of all of the time given to them.  Time is our most precious gift and I know that at times (pun intended) many of us forget this. 
We trade time for many things, money being the most popular.  Then we spend this money on other things that occupy our time.  So we trade time doing something we may not enjoy for time doing something that we may enjoy.  Really sitting back and thinking about this makes me wonder if this makes any sense at all…Obviously there are situations where people enjoy their jobs or enjoy doing whatever it is they do for money.  So for them the sacrifice of time isn’t as drastic.  But for many others, whom hate their jobs or just don’t enjoy it, this trade can be quite detrimental.  Me…I enjoy my job.  But I also don’t have to sacrifice as much time as others.  Plus my time is spent in my home and not at a traditional “office”.  I am lucky in this regard.  So if we trade our time working for money, why don’t we spend more time outside of working doing things we actually enjoy, or really taking advantage of Life!

Lets break down time…
We have 24 hours in each day.
7 days in each week.
365 days each year.
52 weeks in each year.
The average life expectancy for a person is about 78 years.
We spend anywhere between 7-8 hours sleeping each night.
For the sake of simplicity I’ll say the average adult works 40 hours each week and gets 1 week off per year.

The math…
8 hours of sleep each day * 7 days a week = 56 hours.
80 hours of work in 2 weeks.
112 hours of sleep in 2 weeks.
2920 hours of sleep each year.
2040 hours of work (minus the 1 week off).
2920 + 2040 = 4960 hours each year spent sleeping and working.
8760 hours total in each year – 4960 = **3800 hours of “free time” in a year**
3800 * 78 years = **296,400 hours of “free time” in an average lifetime**

Forgive my math breakdown above…but breaking down the math helps me visualize time better being the very logical and analytical person that I am.  As shown above, a person whom has a full time job and averages 8 hours of sleep per night will have 3800 hours to do what they want each year and they may have 296,400 hours in their lifetime.  These do not subtract travel time to and from work or any location, cleaning ourselves, or any other activity that takes 15-30 minutes here and there.  So the actual totals are much smaller.  

These hours may seem massive.  But they are not once compared to the time we trade doing things we must do like sleep or earn money.  

What we choose to use our “free” time on should be considered more valuable to us than what we are trading our time for doing work, sleep, etc.  If we reminded ourselves of how precious time is we wouldn’t trade it for just anything or to spend it with just anyone.  We would require that thing or person to mean a lot to us.  Instead we trade times for many things that do not benefit us in anyway.  Why do this?  If you knew you had 1 year to live exactly from today what would you do with your time? Would you spend any of your time watching TV? Would you be spending 8 hours each week day working? Would you sleep 8 hours a night? Would you not keep in touch and build relationships with your family, friends, and loved ones? Would you travel the world, country, or outside of your comfort zone?  Would you not appreciate all the little moments in your life spent doing the “little things” like enjoying a good meal or conversation with another human?

These are things that many of us don’t think about.  We spend a lot of our time earning money, but what do we do with that money…do we spend it traveling the world to experience new cultures and meet new people, do we spend it helping others in their lives, do we spend it on friends and family, do we use it for entertainment…the list goes on.  Many of us spend our time getting a higher education so that we may earn higher amounts of money for our time.  But, earning more money doesn’t make the trade easier because many of us compound our expenses and don’t get full use out of the more money we are earning.  

Lets not waste time…I’ve thought about potentially using another word here instead of waste.  But I want it to be clear that time is precious, therefore waste fits for me.  Don’t waste your time in a job that isn’t either providing you with the joy of being at that job or the income to do many other things you enjoy supplementing not enjoying the job.  Don’t waste your time with friends or in relationships that aren’t mutually beneficial.  If someone isn’t helping you in some way, shape, or form, they are hurting you.  The best relationships are about helping each other not bringing one another down.  Surround yourself with people whom want to build each other up and have similar goals and ambitions as you.  Surround yourself with people whom also appreciate your time and understand how precious it is to you and their selves.   

Some people learn in their lives how precious time is and begin to take advantage of all of the wonderful moments life has to offer.  Others don’t realize how precious life is unfortunately until it is too late.  I choose to enjoy the moments in my life to the best of my ability.  Of course it’s all about balance (I’ve blogged about this before), so I’m not quitting my job (yet) to travel around the world living out of a backpack.  But I am doing my best to travel to as many new places that  I can, meet new people and build relationships with them, work on my current relationships with friends, family, and loves ones, and enjoying and embraces all the moments in my life good and bad.  These are things to me that are worth my time.  What is worth your time?

Fred

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Approaching the 3-0


It’s definitely been a while since I’ve taken time to post some thoughts on here.  My thought process has been quite active but I haven’t had that overwhelming urge to share many of these thoughts until now.  A thought that has had a constant presence in my mind is my perspective on my life and how I approach many situations now.  My perspective has evolved after having the amazing experience of traveling to Cambodia and being back home almost saddens me.  Let me explain…I have regular thoughts of how people are living in Cambodia knowing a little about what they have experienced. This has humbled me greatly.  I am a very fortunate person who has been able to achieve many things in life that some people will never experience or even have a chance of experiencing.  I’m not just talking about driving (nice) cars, traveling around the world, or having a well paying job.  It’s the things that we consider simple that others yearn for….running water, eating regularly, traveling more than a few hours away from the place you were born, being able to experience other cultures and places, a roof over our head, and stability.  Over these past few months I have been focused on really appreciating everything that I am able to have in my life especially the simple things. 
Life is tough.  But one thing that I think many of us forget is we don’t have as tough a life as many others do across the world.  If we learn to appreciate the simple things that we are able to have on a more consistent basis we will only improve as people.  This will start a ripple in your life that will allow for a greater appreciation for many things leading to a greater appreciation for your life in general.

As I approach my 30th birthday I find myself less and less excited about that day.  Instead I’m becoming more excited for everyday that I am able to wake up and appreciate the people who I have been fortunate to meet and have relationships with, the job that provides me with flexibility to do many things outside of work, a healthy body that allows me to be able to still play sports, a wonderful family that has always supported me, great friends that don’t always tell me what I want to hear, and living in a great city that is very diverse and allows me to meet new people and experience many other cultures.  This list could go on and on, but I’ll leave it at that.  

I hope that soon I will once again be able to travel abroad because I know that these experiences will only help me in my life journey.  Opening our minds to others and their experiences only enhances our mind and perspective.  Life’s a journey…embrace every moment of it.

Fred

Monday, August 15, 2011

So Many Thoughts...

Today I have so many topics racing through my head that I feel as if I could write for hours about them. These topics include our education system (including college), economy, travel, traditions, and family…just to name a few. I can’t seem to fully collect my thoughts and focus in on one yet so until then I won’t express my thoughts. By my next post I will definitely delve into one of the many things currently in my thoughts.

Until then…here are a few pictures from my family reunion which was in Charleston, SC a few weekends ago. I spoke about it here. I’ll post more to my Facebook page.

Fred



















Monday, August 1, 2011

Family Reunion

I’m feeling quite good after attending the Drakeford, Gaskin, Kirkland family reunion this weekend in Charleston, SC. I had an amazing time conversing with family members that I haven’t seen in almost 10 years and it was great to see my 95 year old great aunt moving around as if she was at least 20 years younger.

We took a tour of Drayton Hall Plantation on Saturday which was extremely mind opening. The guides explained the lives of the enslaved Africans at Drayton Hall and also some of the history of the plantation. I learned that my ancestors (on the Kirkland side) originated from Kershaw County South Carolina and the one of the owners of my ancestors was a man by the name of Daniel Kirkland who’s father John Kirkland was born in Scotland in the 1750s. I also learned about the Gullah people who were the African Americans who lived in the Lowcountry and that night we had some Gullah cuisine which was phenomenal.

It was amazing to look at my family tree and see the connection that I have to the men and woman of my family who lived during the slavery era of the United States. The slavery era seems so long ago but I’m only about 5 generations separated from it. That’s mind blowing to me to say the least.

The little that I learned this weekend about my ancestors was amazing and definitely motivated me to learn even more about them. Overall, I had a great time this weekend with family and friends, and I definitely am looking forward to spending more time with them in the future.

Fred

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

"Huh!"


I had a BLAST this past weekend in South Carolina and Georgia. It was good to kick it with old friends and meet some new ones. We stayed in Beaufort, SC with friends and they were great host for the weekend. I had some amazing seafood at a restaurant in Beaufort, SC (actually Port Royal, SC) 11th Street Dockside, hung out for a night in Savannah, GA on river street, and had plenty of laughs. I will be heading back again. Shot out to Mario and Ashley for being such great host, T Redd for the surprise of the weekend LOL., and little Adriana for being my new homie.

The title is an inside joke from the weekend ;)

Monday, June 7, 2010

Family, Friends, Life, Living...

I’m feeling extra motivated after a great weekend with family and friends back home. I love that my brothers are growing into great young men and seeing my parents relationship as strong as it has ever been. We had family pictures this weekend and it was the first time that we had taken them as a whole family in almost 10 years. It felt great to be whole again (as a family). I’m excited to see the things I will accomplish in my life and to also see my brothers continue to accomplish great things.
At the graduation some of the speakers mentioned quotes that resonated in me and affirmed a lot of feelings and thoughts I have about my life. Striving for greatest and being different, in my life, is something that I have been working towards these past years, and continuing to balance my life also. Having a good balance between business and pleasure is important to me, and I feel the best when I am balanced between the two.
Life isn’t easy. Relationships aren’t easy. Learning isn’t easy. Nothing in life worth having or achieving is easy. But, I’m up for any challenged that I am faced with in my life and I will support those important to me in their challenges also.
Another step is coming and my life and I will continue to take one step at a time. This adjustment will not be easy for me, but I will stay focused on my goals in order to make the adjustments easier.

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Thursday, May 27, 2010

Mind bleed...

I'm up wayyyy too late on a work day knowing that I need to get up early and work in the morning. Anyway, just been marinating on a few things lately. Same ol' stuff...work, life, relationship, my future, BLAH!!! So many decisions made and hopefully many more in my future.

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Putting things in perspective…

I feel exceptionally good after a few days with my homeboy P, a few days with my parents, and then a few days in Miami with my parents, some aunts, uncles, and cousins. Being around these people who love me for me, no matter what I have done, helped me a lot. It really helped to remind myself how important love ones are in my life. There are so many things that I have been thinking about lately and struggling with. But being around them really helped me put some things back in perspective. I love my family and friends very much. They have provided me with so much love, advice, wisdom, expertise, etc. So I will be making sure that I don’t forget the ones who have helped me become the person that I am today. I have many things that I have to work on, but I know that the ground work is laid and all I have to do is focus on continuing to build.

Fred

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Sunday, January 3, 2010

The Crying Rose.



After yesterday, I have A LOT more respect for people who get tattoos. When Bryant was coloring in my Crying Rose I felt like I was going to cry sometimes LOL….Not really but it REALLY hurt. But I am so happy with the finished piece. Bryant at Fat Ink tattoo is the MAN!!! Very great artist and I appreciate him taking my idea of a Crying Rose dedicated to my Grandparents and turning it into this finished piece. It’s amazing to me how some people have that artistic eye and can see things that other people can’t even image. This tattoo was a vision of mine almost 3 years ago and it’s amazing for me to finally see it become a reality.

Posted at http://fk3.blogspot.com/

Friday, December 25, 2009

I Love You Granny

Happy Holiday’s to everyone. There is a week left in 2009. Crazy how fast this year has flown by. I’ve had quite a few changes this year and I will continue to make more. I need change in order to improve myself and my life. Anyway, today is Christmas and this year I seem to be thinking about my Granny a lot. I guess the tattoo is doing its job, LOL. I really do miss her. I miss talking to her and just being in her presence. She was a very important person to me and will never forget what she has done for me and my family. Love you always Granny!!!

On another note, the tattoo is healing and peeling all over. But this is part of the process, so we’ll see how long this last. But it’s all worth and I know its going to look sick once its done and all healed up.

Monday, December 21, 2009

You helped me be who I am...



I had my first sitting of my first tattoo today. Took about 4 hours, didn't hurt too bad. I was mostly smiling the whole time because this is something that I have wanted going on three years now. These three people mean the world to me and they all played a role in molding me into the man that I am today. Without them, I'm not sure where I would be in my life. This is a small gesture to remind myself of these two amazing woman and a great man. I love you all with all my heart and I hope that I inspire someone else the way that you all have inspired me.

The second sitting is in two weeks and it will look even better once the color is in.

It is called...Crying Rose

Fred

Sunday, December 20, 2009

Living life baby....

I barely made it out of that snow storm yesterday in Virginia. It took me about 45 minutes to drive 15 miles from my friends house in Springfield, VA to the airport and the whole time I was there I was expecting to see that I my 8:40 am flight was canceled and I was going to have to figure out how to make it back to their house. To my surprise we actually took off in the storm, a very fast climb by the pilots I would like to add, and we made it to Tampa safely. Seeing that snow had me wondering if I would choose to move from Tampa back somewhere where it snows…..not sure about that.

Anyway, I probably will be seeing snow when I visit the family in Michigan in a few weeks. Not looking forward to the snow, but looking forward to seeing them and a other people ;-)

Besides that…its life. The good, the bad, the sad, the happy. Life is what we make it. Be happy in the moment and enjoy the time we are giving.

I’m living therefore I am happy,

Fred

Friday, November 14, 2008

How you feel and whats real....

I have so many things on my mind as I sit here after a long day of working from home and catching up on being behind on work. So many thoughts, so many ideas. Then while I was watching a movie I heard a quote that really made me think (even more lol). “You need to decide between what you feel and what is real”. I really liked how this was put and it made a lot sense to me. This is not far from my last post where I was talking about syncing my inner self with my outer self. Sometimes (probably a lot of times) our feelings can mislead us. Feelings are such a reactive thing and you need to think things through in order to move forward and understand things that are going on in your life and your surroundings. I have met many people in my life and the most successful people tend to be the ones who think before they act. Now I’m not talking success as in being wealthy or having material things. I’m talking about being happy in your life and being more than just that average person a lot people except being. The reactive people that I have met in my life tend to stay stagnant and sometimes I don’t think they understand why they find themselves in the same situations day in and day out.

I have a hard time keeping my feelings in control when it comes to some situations and I focus on getting better at that everyday. I don’t want to be a person that just reacts but a lot of times it is extremely difficult. I will continue to push myself to stop, think, and understand reality. If I can do that, I know that I will reach a better understanding about my life and the people I choose to have in it.

On another note….I have been living in Lansing almost 6 months and it has been an interesting time. My life is much different here than it was in Virginia. I love being able to go to all my brothers events, help them study for school and do homework, go to the movies with them, see my mom and dad, and be away from the busy city. But I can honestly say that when I was considering the move back, I didn’t think it would be like this. I find many days where I don’t leave the house because I work from home and I work a long day. Other days I may be gone for an hour, maybe two, and then I back to house. The “friends” that I had here aren’t interested in the same things that I am and it has been difficult hanging out with them because I don’t want to fall back into the same habits that I had before I left Lansing. I don’t enjoy going out to the bar 2-3 times a week and hanging around young minded (not all of them are) college students, and I’m not interested in going to other bars in Lansing because it is the same people I have seen my whole life and most of them aren’t doing anything with their lives. In DC it was nice being around young professionals. That doesn’t seam to exist here in Lansing.

I’m not upset that I moved back, because if I didn’t try it, I might have regretted it in the future. But no matter where I live, I will always be there for my brothers and my family. My brothers were the biggest motivation to move back and I love them dearly. But I might have to get more creative and figure out another way to be there for them and not be in Lansing. This will take some thought…

Love life. Live life. Learn and just Be Happy!!!!

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

Good Ol' Lansing Michigan...

I made it back safely. It feels weird living in Lansing after being gone for three years, but I know that I have some things to take care of here. While I am here I will definetly take advantage of being closer to my little brothers and other family members and continue to you grow as a person.

On another note, I think I like the idea of posting more random things in my blog. So be on the lookout. Until then...

Peace...